When Your No Is A Blessings Thief

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Do you need anything? NO.


Can I make you a meal? NO.


Is there something I could help you with? NO.


I think we are saying “No” too often to the things we need to be saying, “Yes, Please.”


Now, let me start off by saying, that I am all for saying “No” to things that are not #onmybeam.


Last year I read Lysa Terkeurst’s book, The Best Yes, and it was excellent. It didn’t make my 5 Star Read list of 2015, but I did give it 4 stars. It was all about having the ability to say no to things that were not essential so you would be able to say yes to the things that were. It encouraged that you set boundaries and not have guilt for saying no. If you are a people pleaser, and you struggle with saying, “no” – I can not recommend this book enough.


“We become slaves to others’ demands when we let our time become dictated by requests. We will live reactive lives instead of proactive.” {Lysa Terkeurst, The Best Yes}


However, that is not the no I am talking about.


In the last couple weeks, I have had some friends that are going through some hard times. I have offered help in multiple forms, and was repeatedly told “No.”  I wasn’t asking anything from them, or asking them to do anything, I wanted to help – and I was refused the blessing of being able to help someone I care about.


I finally had enough and spoke my mind. I told them, “When you are refusing help, you are robbing that person of being a blessing to you.”  Not that I want accolades for helping or a pat on the back. That is not the case at all. I just want to help. I want to bless them in a tangible way – beyond the prayer that I am already covering them in. I believe we are called to help.


We are called to be a blessing.


And do not forget to do good and to share with others, for with such sacrifices God is pleased. (Hebrews 13:16, NIV)


Share with the Lord’s people who are in need. Practice hospitality. (Romans 12:13, NIV)


The Bible is pretty clear about it. We are to share with each other. We are to help those in need. If you had a friend that was having a hard time, wouldn’t you want to help them?


So in everything, do to others what you would have them do to you, for this sums up the Law and the Prophets. (Matthew 7:12, NIV)

I thought so. You would want to help, so allow others to help you.


The next time you are having a hard time, or a bad day, or find yourself feeling defeated and someone asks…


Do you need anything?


Can I make you a meal?


Is there something I could help you with?


Say YES!!!


Don’t let your “no” become a blessings thief.


I am linking up today at Suzie Eller’s for #LiveFreeThursday


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